The "WHY" of what you do

Simon Sinek explains that the reason Apple's message is stronger than that of Dell for example, is because Apple first sells why they are doing what they're doing, then how they are doing it and lastly what the are selling. The same is true for every decision we make in our personal life. Instead of continuously looking at what is in front of us and what we can do about it we should  rather start by asking "why". For example:

Programming memories

Higher performing leaders have higher emotional intelligence than leaders who do not perform that well. Studies in the past few years have advocated the importance of developing emotional intelligence abilities such as self-awareness, social awareness, self management and relationship skills.

Finding new alternatives

When we encounter conflicting viewpoints with a colleague at work, a family member, a political party or even with other religions the automatic reaction for many of us is fight or flight. We either decide to go on the offence and try and prove our point no matter the result or we choose to ignore the viewpoint. Any conflicting viewpoint we throw into a mental box buried somewhere in our mind, gathering dust with all the other ‘undesirable’ viewpoints. We immediately go into a defense mode because we automatically view the other person’s viewpoint as wrong. We see conflict as transactional rather than transformational. We want to transact our way through an issue while the underlying problem is rather the relationship between ourselves and the other party.